Not Confident? Get Mad!

sometimes you just got to get mad as a presenter we are expected to be leaders and leaders are strong and leaders are people that others will follow and we have to have our confidence reality sets in and we can’t always have our confidence things rattle us things Shake us things throw us and the more important the situation the more likely we’re going to have that rattle inside now at Sage presence we talk about making very direct eye contact we look at the person we’re talking to and you really feel that attention when it comes your way that’s a good way to show confidence but you still get rattled and sometimes when you’re rattled you’re communicating your fear to that person through that direct eye contact because whatever you’re feeling tends to go across and you want to be strong so the the trick the back pocket trick when the basic eye contact model doesn’t work try getting mad getting mad is is kind of a counterintuitive idea and I want to make sure I differentiate I don’t mean get angry angry is mad at you if I’m mad at you that’s anger but mad energy is the energy of conviction and sternness and seriousness and importance so if I say look this has to happen we need to do this because listen this matters you feel the heat you feel the energy and what happens is when I generate that feeling suddenly I lock eyes with you I’m really seeing somebody who I say now hang on a second what we’re talking about matters that energy creates the other technique of really direct eye contact and it shows you a strong so be careful don’t get angry at people but use mad energy to show conviction and seriousness and to show the importance of what you’re talking about and mad energy will trigger your confidence so next time you’re getting that shaky feeling don’t get angry but get mad and show yourself as strong