Old sayings like, ‘It’s all in the eyes” can be useful, but can often be too reductive. In today’s post, Dean provides the necessary add-on to this old saying.
Old sayings like, ‘It’s all in the eyes” can be useful, but can often be too reductive. In today’s post, Dean provides the necessary add-on to this old saying.
“It’s all in the eyes.”
We’ve heard that forever.
But here’s the reality:
It’s not just in the eyes.
Great eye contact is a full-body experience.
In live settings, we often teach:
That’s solid.
But it’s incomplete.
Because if you only move your eyes…
something feels off.
Imagine someone doing this:
It comes across as:
Even a little creepy.
Because real connection isn’t just visual—
it’s physical.
When you truly connect with someone, your body joins in:
Your whole body says, “I’m with you.”
In a room, strong eye contact is unmistakable.
People can feel when you’re talking to them because:
It’s not subtle—and it shouldn’t be.
Online, it’s different—but not really.
Everyone’s “eyes” are in one place:
The camera lens.
Looking at your screen might feel like eye contact to you—
but not to them.
So yes, you need to look at the lens.
But again—
not with your eyes alone.
Even on camera, you can:
It doesn’t have to be exaggerated.
But it does need to be present.
Because that’s what creates the feeling of connection.
When you use your whole body:
When you don’t:
They feel distance—even if your eyes are “correct.”
Eye contact isn’t about where your eyeballs are pointing.
It’s about whether your audience feels seen.
So don’t just look at people.
Turn toward them. Lean into them. Engage them.
Because real eye contact…
is a full-body connection.
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