I’ve been working with a leader in an organization who’s at a really interesting level in her career she is just on the edge of senior leadership she’s like one step down from that and she reports to many people who are in senior leadership so she gets freaked out by these presentations that she delivers to them because she really wants them to like her she wants to be one of them she would love to get promoted into that upper echelon and as a result her presentations are Rocky and her boss who is in that Echelon likes her but can tell that she is really try to be likable and that’s the thing that’s throwing her off she really is coming across as desperate to be liked in these presentations it’s getting in her way and it’s getting in the way of the audience as they perceive her in these presentations so I’m coaching her on a really simple concept that I want to suggest to you if you can identify with this idea of really wanting your audience to like you I would like you to consider something you are likable there’s absolutely nothing wrong with you there’s nothing in the way of being likable except your interest in being likable the thing that’s getting in your way is kind of this idea of I really want them to like me so take that idea and just push it aside if you can show up to a presentation liking your audience and giving them what they want at this moment which is they want you to get to your point they want you to go through your presentation and give them the information that they’re there to hear if you can just do that you like them and you give them what they’re looking for they will like you there is nothing else you need to do so if this is a thing that comes up for you frequently I’m going to suggest that you make it a practice to figure out in advance what your audience wants like them and give them what they want just focus on those two things and see what kind of a difference it makes for you
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